In CR, I got a blue chip in trying to honor my earthly father. I think I can probably boil all my problems to not honoring my Dad properly and not forgiving his shortcomings. This is not written to try to fix my Dad. It's to fix me. It's also to acknowledge that my Dad is human, but he raised me to be a Christian, still provides the roof over my head, paid for my vacation back in July/August, usually pays for my prescriptions, will give money if I ask him.
He's human, but he does care for me, my brother, and my husband. Any flaw I see in him, I certainly see in myself.
So, yeah, I need to honor my dad and forgive him his flaws. I find that whenever I have made a resolution to do so, it has stuck for the most part. I have relapsed. But the thing is, I need rely on God's grace poured out through Jesus to heal my sins. Not a resolution that I made. Praise God, he uses resolutions, too, but the true answers are not through meeting God halfway; if we had to do that we'd never make the first step. No, the Holy Spirit has to come all the way, pick me up, and walk me to my goal. The goal is not me honoring Dad. It's His Glory alone.